Size Matters

It’s time to discuss something big…me. I’m big. Not giant, but big. I’m going to round up and down slightly (so that people who know me won’t have my exact measurements), but you will get the point.  Let’s say, hypothetically, that I am 5’11 feet tall and 210 pounds.  That will give you a good idea of my size.  [Of course, I am really taller and lighter than that.]

At 5’11, I am way taller than the average woman (5’4″), and a little taller than the average man (5’9 1/2″).  Tall.  I’m not much heavier than the average male with an average weight of 194, but I’ve got 40 pounds on the average woman.  I am not meant to be small.  I wear a size 10-11 men’s shoe for goodness sake.  My finance and I joke that when I hold a regular beer (12 oz.), I look like a giant – as opposed to the 22 oz. craft beers that I am so fond of.

Yes, yes, Butch, but so what?

Well, I have been on a quest for about 4 years now to get smaller, healthier, and more fit.  I have been successful because I have given up on my old way of doing things.  You know, eating whatever I want and only doing activities that I enjoy (sitting on the couch watching football while eating Wings N’ Things).  Perhaps you’ve been there?  Now lots of gym time and no more Wings & Things for me, which makes my fiancé very happy because even the sight of the glowing orange wings gives her a stomach ache.  <Sigh>

So, I am about 60 pounds down from my all-time high (woot woot!).  Then, I was huge.  Now I am big.  Then I was a XXL or XXXL.  Now I am an L in most things.  Then, it was all about special clothing stores. Now, not so much. Point to it and I can shop there. Unless it’s AF.  Nothing fits me there, but then, I’m not sure anything fits anyone there who does not resemble a frantic, desperate (skinny) 14-year old.  But, I digress.

The thing is I like being big.  I like being bigger than my fiancé.  A lot.  I like feeling like the big butch, the protective type.  You know, the one who can scare away anyone who would harm her.  The bigger, tougher one.  Grrrrrr.

So, I have to wonder – am I keeping myself big to be more butch?  I can logically think how dumb that is.  I can logically work out that it’s better for me and my fiancé if I were a touch smaller than I am.  Just a couple of sizes lighter.

Less weight on me = more healthy in every way.  I want to be healthy.  Wouldn’t I still be butch 30 pounds from now, leaner and more muscled?  I mean, Rachel Maddow is butch-ish and she is lean!  I think that I am finally getting this through my skull.  Even if I lose all the rest of the weight that I intellectually know I need (and from the health charts am supposed) to lose, I will still be much bigger than my fiancé.  She is tiny.  So, I can be healthy and still be the big, strong, protective one.

It’s butch to be big and strong…and healthy and fit.  Be butch.

About Tristan Higgins, aka Butch Jaxon

I am a butch. This blog is about what I think. If you do not know what butch means, you are probably on the wrong blog. In the interests of inclusion, though, I can tell you that “butch” means a lesbian that is big, strong, tough, more macho, less girly. Of course, there are no hard and fast rules – which is an ongoing theme in my blog (and in the comments), but those are the basics. A butch will most likely not wear makeup. A butch is often referred to as “sir” by someone who is not paying attention. What else? I am, after all, not just a butch. I am happily married to the most amazing woman ever, and the mother of two fantastic kids. I am also a lover of, in no particular order, beer, bow ties, breasts, movies, hiking, bookstores, travel, dogs, geocaching, polar bears, the gym, music, gadgets, and more. By day, I am an intrepid corporate entertainment lawyer. Although I try hard not to be labeled as such – sporting a bleached Mohawk, for example. Think more entertainment and less corporate. By night, bring it all on! In my blog, I talk about things from a butch perspective, but this is not just for butches. We all love our femmes. Please do not let me offend femmes, mine in particular! If you like what you read here, I hope you will comment and let me know what you think. If you do not like what you read, well, what the hell do I care? Start your own blog. Be Butch. View all posts by Tristan Higgins, aka Butch Jaxon

11 responses to “Size Matters

  • Bejai

    Those mental pictures can really mess with our heads. I suspect that being Butch is an attitude rather than a pants size. If the goal is to be Butch as long and as healthily as you can, keep taking it off. It will just show off your muscles more. Maybe the six pack on your tummy could be something other than Guiness!

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  • monkiss

    I think butch is more a state of being than a size but i am going through the same thing! i was xxxl, now xxl and on my way to xl and had the same internal argument, but less flab and more muscle is in my opinion, more butch.

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  • monkiss

    p.s also size 11 shoe.

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  • Your sister Sharon

    I told your lady some time ago that I have a crush on Rachel Maddow. After analyzing it a little, I think this is because I deem her to be incredibly smart, and while I do not think she is unattractive physically at all, I don’t think for me the attraction is about that.

    Anyway, excuse me while I take over your blog and talk about absolutely nothing you were talking about at all.

    P.S. Don’t get any smaller. You’re a perfect butch just as you are.

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    • ButchOnTap

      Your sister Sharon,

      I’m sorry I did not reply to you lively comment immediately. I read it and it gave me a warm fuzzy! Thank you so much for your comment. I have an appreciation for Maddow, for sure. When I reach my goal, I will tower over her though and be able to pick her up and spin her!

      Be butch.

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    • ButchOnTap

      Your Sister Sharon, you are not taking over. You are doing EXACTLY what I hope you and others will do – sharing your thoughts about what I wrote. Thank you for doing that! I understand the attraction, albeit not exactly physical, to Maddow. She is very pleasing, but not for me. So, in that way, we are the same. And, thank you for the lovely compliment.

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  • Julie B.

    “You know, eating whatever I want and only doing activities that I enjoy (sitting on the couch watching football while eating Wings N’ Things). Perhaps you’ve been there?”

    It’s like you’ve been reading my diary! Good stuff 😀

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