Helloooooooo Kitty!

Fess up. No butch is 100% butch. We all lose butch points here or there. I have a Hello Kitty Visa card. Yes, that’s right.  Hello Kitty.  It’s pink and black and absolutely adorable. And totally un-butch. Or, is it?


More often than not, the woman taking my card freaks out about how cute it is. She tells me how much she loves Hello Kitty, or as I like to call her, “the Kitty.” She tells me stories about the Kitty. Why she loves the Kitty.  How adorable the Kitty is. Shows me her tattoo of the cute little feline. Seriously.

So, I’m wondering, do I lose butch points with the Kitty, or is it a great hook to get to the femmes?  Like the dude with the cute baby or puppy. You know, a chick magnet.

For me, it’s not an intentional hook. I really do love the Kitty. She was introduced when I was a little kid. There was something about that cute little white kitty with that red bow. Maybe it was that she was so perfectly drawn to appeal to a kid. Maybe it was the cute little toys and mini things that she was emblazoned on. I have always loved office supplies. Put a little black and white kitty on a pencil box, and watch out.

On the other hand, maybe she was the first femme I was drawn to. Think about it. She’s cute and girly! Always in a bow, usually a dress. She likes to bake cookies and loves sweets.

Maybe I’m still drawn to her because my parents wouldn’t let me buy the stuff. You know, make something off-limits and it becomes irresistible.  They thought that the Kitty stuff was too expensive. I would try reasoning with them… “But Mom, I really need this school set in the pencil box for $20. I mean, it even has a mini-stapler!” But she was, wisely, unconvinced, and the school kit – complete with stapler – stayed in the store.

Now, as a grown up, I can buy that kit if I want to, but strangely, I don’t want to. Seems like a waste of money! I have instilled a love of Hello Kitty in my kids though, and will happily buy them toys and figurines. I might even sit and play with said toys and figurines if asked. My own love, however, is limited to my Visa. I think it says something about me. I like to have fun. I don’t take myself too seriously. And, if some cute femmes happen to appreciate me for my card, so be it.

It’s butch to like the Kitty. Be butch.

About Tristan Higgins, aka Butch Jaxon

I am a butch. This blog is about what I think. If you do not know what butch means, you are probably on the wrong blog. In the interests of inclusion, though, I can tell you that “butch” means a lesbian that is big, strong, tough, more macho, less girly. Of course, there are no hard and fast rules – which is an ongoing theme in my blog (and in the comments), but those are the basics. A butch will most likely not wear makeup. A butch is often referred to as “sir” by someone who is not paying attention. What else? I am, after all, not just a butch. I am happily married to the most amazing woman ever, and the mother of two fantastic kids. I am also a lover of, in no particular order, beer, bow ties, breasts, movies, hiking, bookstores, travel, dogs, geocaching, polar bears, the gym, music, gadgets, and more. By day, I am an intrepid corporate entertainment lawyer. Although I try hard not to be labeled as such – sporting a bleached Mohawk, for example. Think more entertainment and less corporate. By night, bring it all on! In my blog, I talk about things from a butch perspective, but this is not just for butches. We all love our femmes. Please do not let me offend femmes, mine in particular! If you like what you read here, I hope you will comment and let me know what you think. If you do not like what you read, well, what the hell do I care? Start your own blog. Be Butch. View all posts by Tristan Higgins, aka Butch Jaxon

19 responses to “Helloooooooo Kitty!

  • Dutch Leonard

    A man I know wanted a 55 or 56 Thunderbird. He found one, a 1956, and the only thing wrong with it was that it was pink. He bought it anyway, thinking he could repaint it. He would be parked next to a red 57 at the car show and that red 57 usually got first place. I noticed all the men would stop and look at the red 57. But the women would stop and look at the pink 56 Tbird. This convinced me that a pink car could be a very good thing. If I ever have the chance to buy a pink convertible, I will.


  • Kelly

    Butch, Butch, Butch.

    I have 2 responses to this:

    Dude, how many beers did you drink before admitting this?!
    According to section 6, article 9 of The Butch rule book, you totally lost points! By your own admission, you love The Kitty. (Obvious jokes left untouched…) It is an unintentional hook that femmes find this cute. You already lost a few points painting your toenails in general & for the color. However the butchscaping gorilla post was clever and imaginative so you gained points on that one! Lucky for you I’m a zoo keeper. 🙂

    Fess up you said….no butch is 100% butch all the time. Not too long ago my Femme & I were having a lighthearted conversation about just this. I think I am quite Butchly. She called me out because I made her a stuffed animal….! Ok. Yes I did. He is a BLUE MONSTER for crying out loud! I made him for her! That’s mega Butchly. I didn’t sew, I used a hot glue gun, also totally Butch. You can get a serious burn from that shit!

    Second response:

    Dude, a butch can love anything, even pink kitties…as long as you OWN IT. Appropriate attitude shown in your opening statement. ” yes, that’s right. Hello Kitty.” Tell that other part of me to fuck off & get over myself!
    My earliest faves were thus: Snoopy, Animal from the Muppets and Oscar the grouch. I came out of the womb hating anything pink. Hello Kitty isn’t my thing. But sure can be yours as a Butch! Maybe put a little shark sticker on your visa…?


  • Jessica Sideways

    I know what you mean. I’m femme but I am proud of my Porsche 356A, which I restored myself.


  • monkiss

    I’m with Kelly on this…fer real? hello kitty?
    I don’t think anything I own or wear has a hint of femininity about it…

    although gender stereotypes are socially constructed so f**k anyone who says there’s only way to be butch and then says “you’re doing it wrong” there IS no wrong way…well except for having a hello kitty visa 😉

    I joke ofcourse….my un-butchly side comes out in my love of the “lady movie”, y”know, the tear jerker/romantic comedy where someone has unrequited love and then they die of some tragic disease…gets me every time!


  • Maya

    This is a fabulous post, Butch, and all the comments too!

    We Femmes are way more forgiving than you Butches are of your “un-butchlyness” of course, in fact it is the FACT that you have these moments and parts of yourselves that makes you so special to us. . . SO, confession time: Im the Femme that Kelly made the dolls for. Well, she is right, I SWOONED when I saw the first one – Jake – he is amazing – and to make things even better (worse?), Kelly has a series of mini-comic/stories about Jake and his adventures (which invariably include rescuing damsels in distress and the like) that go with the doll.

    The fact that she made the dolls at all is unbearably endearing, but that she did the whole thing with a HOT GLUE GUN is, well, I have no words. . . sweep me off my feet with a feather. . .
    . . .and THEN came Milli, the pink companion to Jake. . . she, too, is square and made with said glue gun. . . though she has sparkly silver and gold hair (albeit made from pipe cleaners – Goddess forbid anything as soft as yarn be used. . .) But you see, the fact that Kelly went so far outside her comfort zone to please me (imagine the 5’10” big-biceped, black-mowhawked Butch braving Fanny’s Fabrics. . . ) and then that in fact she turns out to have a Femme-ish TALENT for doll making – – to me makes her all the more BUTCH because she proves herself to be CONFIDENT ENOUGH IN HER BUTCHNESS to allow her femme-side some presence. (LOVE you K.)

    A Butch is HOT because she has both the Masculine AND the Feminine within her. . . she is SUPER hot when she has the confidence to offer both to her Femme and the world.

    Thanks Butch, for continuing to bring us laughter, insight and opportunity to look at ourselves . And even more so for really being one of the few on-line communities for living, breathing, Butch-Femme discussions.

    Love to All,


  • Rachel Kantstopdaphunk

    As far as I can tell, loving the kitty is a prerequisite for being butch. lol, love that final line. 🙂


  • Jasminism!

    Your blog is all fuzzy and warm and whimsical, like a butch angel cat has floated down, and sat on my shoulder telling me cute anecdotes! You must be confident in your butchhood to love the magical little white kitty one so, it just proves you are not insecure. Most men would not profess to loving hello kitty. I am a not out yet bi, feminine, look like Rita Hayworth, but with some male essence inside me, and I LOVE hello kitty. Butch, femme, asexual, whatever, she transcends into an icon for kitty lovers!


  • rmiles74

    Absolutely nothing wrong with liking a pussy, just sayin’. . .


  • Nothing is Lost In Translation | ButchOnTap

    […] patterns. Bring it. Love it. Plus, any country that is absolutely head over heels in love with Hello Kitty, or Kitty Chan, as she is affectionately called, is more than alright with […]


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