Recently, I asked all of you to share the reasons why you love butches. It was a really interesting list and some of you suggested that I needed to compile it and share. One note is that this was grammatically challenging. Most of these are tweets and so not full sentences, but I tried to edit as little as possible. I did make them readable outside of Twitter and Facebook, though, and even though they aren’t all complete sentences, I added periods. Also, I’ve never cursed in a post, but a few of these need the expletive, I think, so I have left them. Well, here you go!
Oh, and if you are a baby butch, take note. It was mentioned on more than one occasion that some of you could use a few of these tips.
OUR HANDS & ARMS
- Big, giant, strong hands to pick me up and fuck me. Number one reason.
- Looking at her strong hands and knowing where they can take me…
- Strong hands on the small of my back guiding me through a crowded room.
- She runs her fingers through my hair, gently pulling my head back, and kisses my neck.
- The contrast of her big rough hands on my smooth skin.
- The way she holds me and the way she takes my hand in hers.
- Butch hands, butch style, butch lips!
- Arms strong enough to carry me to her bed, hands strong enough to pin my wrists even when I arch my back.
- Strong hands that silently promise to always keep me safe.
- The safety that can always be found in their big strong arms.
Butches: Femmes are loving how strong we are. Also, they notice our hands, so maybe keep them clean?
- How amazing she looks in a 3 piece suit with a bow tie and how that bow tie comes in handy after dark.
- How she looks in a made-to-measure three piece suit.
- She’s not into suits, but she knows that you have a thing for them and so she wears them for you.
- Suits and boobs!
- A surprise trashy bra under her suit.
- Purple dress shirts and vests.
- Three words. Ties. Cufflinks. Vests.
- Bow ties that I can untie…
- French cuff dress shirts & cuff links.
- Ties, button down shirts, blazers, belts, shoes, watches.
- Ass kicking boots!
- Short, well maintained hair.
- Nothing quite as appealing as a dapper butch.
Butches: Get the picture here? There is major action to be gotten by dressing up, buttoning down, and tying that bow tie.
- I like how how attentive she is when I make her breakfast.
- When she let’s you ramble on and on about your day…and actually listens.
- They use the word asshats to make sad femmes laugh out loud.
- How intently she listens to me when I speak.
- Her patience while I get ready.
- When a straight man says, “why not date a real man?” I can say, anything you can do, she can do better!
- They’re so smile-inducing to consider that I’d rather stay here typing why I love them, than finish getting ready &going to work this morning!
- The softer side only shown in the safety and confidence of a loved one.
- The dynamic that can only be shared between a butch and a femme.
- Attentive, appreciative and creative..
- The way she embraces the butch-femme dance in a way that respects us both.
- The way butches interact with children when they think no one is watching: let go, act silly and carefree! *swoon*
- Strong facial features with a hint of softness.
Butches: Listen, be patient, and let those lovely femmes see your softer side. Apparently, they like it. What a relief! It’s hard to be tough all the time.
PUPPIES (Yes, really.)
- They get puppies for their little girls..
- They give a puppy-less femme a late nite puppy fix.
- She selflessly offers to share adorable puppy to serve as mascot.
Butches: If you can pull it off responsibly, there are points to be scored here.
- Confidence, because she’s out every moment & has to deal with things I never will.
- Her unapologetic presence and self confidence.
- Outward self confidence and undeniable presence.
I have to say that first one almost makes me cry. It’s true, and it’s exhausting. So nice to be appreciated for it.
- Having a butch find out no one has ever bought you flowers before & them being more pissed off than you.
- She is gallant enough to allow an inattentive femme to save face.
- Old-school butch style, old-school butch manners.
- The way she makes me feel like the only woman in the world worth noticing.
- The silent possessiveness of her presence when we’re on a date.
- Gentlebutch manners. Attentive. Femmes first.
- How she opens the door for me, closes my car door, all those little things.
- How she guides me with a hand on the small of my back as we walk.
- I love butch gentlemanly attention, tenderness, tough demeanor, lovely manners to start…
- The effort she makes to ensure I don’t get wet from puddles and the way she walks.
- Chivalry in the most genuine and loving display.
- The way she bravely kills the spiders while pretending they don’t terrify her.
I am so glad the femmes notice! Young butches: Open the doors for your femme – unless she tells you not to.
- Making her growl.
- How your special butch knows just how to please you.
- Knowing that submission is strength, not weakness.
- How they blush when teased playfully by a femme.
- Walking out in heels, corset, suspenders, stockings with red lips and her being left speechless.
- Because they know how to put the biggest grin on your face, right before bed. *swoon*
- The way she undresses me with her eyes.
- Unexpected romantic streaks.
- Her absolute need for me there and then…
- How I can make her distracted by being girly & flirty.
- Role playing :o)
- When she pretends like we have never met and find that connection all over again every time.
- How they always give a femme what she wants and needs.
- They are super attentive and giving.
- How I can get her cool facade to slip by being provocative.
- The way she makes me melt with a demanding kiss.
- The way she treats me with respect & charm, until we’re in the bedroom.
- The look on their face when they realizing I’m packing under my skirt.
- The way she bends down to gently remove my stilettos before giving me a massage.
- The way they please their lover!
Butches: Well done! We are sexy beasts! Keep up the good work, and the growling.
- Big and strong to pin me down while she fucks me.
- When she ties me up with her bow tie.
- The look on her face when she says “I may hurt you, but I’ll never harm you.”
- Obedience… *fanning myself* and the look in her eyes when she does submit.
Gulp. No comment.
- Butches are so intoxicating.
- The way she reacts to my perfume.
- The way their skin smells, even without cologne or body spray.
Butches: This doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t shower. Keep it fresh.
And, my favorite comment was from JaJaButton: “Someone bring me ButchOnTap. Please? Yum. Butch is best.” Thanks JaJa! You made me blush.
Coming soon, the same inventory for Why I love Femmes. Given this list, it is obvious the femmes and sometimes butches love us for all that makes us butch. So, I guess that means that it’s Butch to Be Butch. Be Butch.