Monthly Archives: March 2014

The Joy of the Game: Reflecting on Watching Baseball Instead of Playing

I’m watching my son play baseball. That means on this particular afternoon, I am sitting alone along the backstop in my relatively comfortable camp chair. Today I am alone, though that’s not the norm. The grandparents didn’t make this game, and my wife is at home with my daughter. As thrilling as the game is for my son, and of course for me, it’s less than riveting for my daughter — especially on a school night. With homework. Indeed, I’m worried about my son being out till 7 on a school night. But, it is what it is, and we will see.

Anywho, as I’ve said before, I’m not necessarily the chattiest mom on the field and so I sit by myself. The other parents are lovely, to be sure, this is just my thing to deal with. As I sit by myself — riveted on my son when he’s in play (so to speak) — I can’t help but let my mind wander.

Head over to Huffington Post to read the rest, won’t you?

Thank you!


Raising Capital

Hi friends,

I’m thinking of doing a Kickstarter or Indiegogo campaign to raise money to fund some ButchOnTap stuff. Specifically, I need to register my new trademark (and finish paying my designer), and I’d really like to get some merchandise made. I was thinking T-shirts, bumper stickers, and maybe some bow ties. But I have so many questions running through my head. Like:

1. What do y’all think?
2. Is it a dumb idea?
3. Have any of you done a campaign? 4. Did it work?
5. Which company did you use?
6. Any tips?
7. Would any of you contribute if I did one?
8. If so, what reward might you like?

I appreciate all feedback on this one. Thank you! It’s butch to give advice. Be Butch.


I’m going. Are you?

Ohmygod, am I ever getting excited! Have you ever been to Dinah? Do you know what I’m talking about? Maybe you are a baby butch who just came out. Maybe you are an established butch who never thought Dinah was for you (because you don’t play golf). Maybe you live in a galaxy far, far away from Palm Springs. Whatever the reason, if you don’t know about The Club Skirts Dinah Shore Weekend (affectionately dubbed, “Dinah“), you need to come! Let me elaborate.

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This is a huge party in the desert. It’s more than a weekend (for those of you who can take a few days off), and it is filled with lesbians, pool parties (read: Bikinis), comedy, hot DJs, go-go dancers (who flirt with you), booze, celelesbians (celebrity lesbians), a film festival, and, I’m told, lots of hooking up. Honestly, that’s not my style, but I understand if it is your style, opportunities abound.

Palm Springs is gorgeous. There is all kinds of fun stuff to do, see, play, and listen to. But there is nothing better for the soul than to be surrounded – literally – by other lesbians. And there are a fair share of butches there, too.

It probably should be a saying that “where there are bikinis, there will be butches.” You know us. We are sporting the rad board shorts, paired with either a ribbed tank, surf shirt, or some sort of yoga top. There are even those of us that brave a bikini top with our swim trunks. I am not one of those butches. Forgetting for a moment that it’s a tiny bikini, no one wants to see my stomach in public.

We are the ones who go to the bar and bring back buckets of beer. The ones playing football, volleyball, or frisbee in the pool. The ones splashing the girls in bikinis. You know, on accident. Yeah, there are butches at Dinah. Femmes, too.

And you know what else? I’ll be there again this year. And, I’m excited to say, I’m bringing my wife! I went last year and definitely had fun. You can read about that here. But it will be nothing compared to the fun of enjoying this with her! I literally cannot wait. I will do my share of running to the bar for drinks for her, will gladly carry her beach bag, and will probably splash her “accidentally” once or twice – like a pathetic teenager.

Of course, in addition to enjoying, I will also tweet and post throughout Dinah. Hopefully, I will even get to do a few interviews before the event with some of the headline musicians and comedians. We will see! If things go right, I may even have some BOT stuff to give away. =:o)

So, I’m going. Are you? It’s butch to surround yourself with lesbians in bikinis. Be Butch.

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Here is the most recent press release for gobs of official details:

PALM SPRINGS, CA – More than 15,000 women from all over the world are once again expected to gather in Palm Springs, CA, to attend the biggest lesbian event of its kind in the world, Club Skirts Dinah Shore Weekend – the original Dinah Shore Weekend – slated for April 2 to April 6, 2014 (www.thedinah.com).

Celebrating this year its milestone 24th Anniversary, The Dinah is a one-of-a-kind destination where women of all ages, interests, ability, relationship status, cultural background and profession come together for one big giant celebration of the community. A life changing experience offering lesbians the opportunity to express themselves, to be who they truly and gain a tremendous amount of self worth.

The Dinah is also a unique five-day affair of lesbionic luxury and fun complete with epic pool parties, unique high-profile nightlife events, celebrity appearances, live performances, a famous celebrity Dodgeball game, a film festival, a Celebrity Poker Tournament, philanthropy, the hottest women, the best DJs, and so much more.

Turning this year again the city of Palm Springs into the ultimate entertainment hub, the 2014 Dinah Entertainment Roster delivers an epic slate of Top Ten Billboard headliners that make up one hell of a phenomenal line up – one of the greatest in The Dinah’s history.

Headlining this year is Lesbian cult favorites Tegan and Sara. The pop sensation duo will bring their “Heartthrob” world tour to The Dinah with an exclusive concert on Saturday, April 5 at “The Black Party” at the Palm Springs Convention Center. The twin sisters have been on an unstoppable meteoric rise since the release of their 7th studio album “Heartthrob” and the massive success of their lead single “Closer”. Their Dinah performance marks the first time the pop stars perform at an all lesbian event.
Also headlining the “Black Party” is female rap titan Eve. The Grammy-Award winning rapper will perform her slew of music anthems including “Satisfaction,” “Who’s That Girl”, “Gangsta Lovin’”, and “Let Me Blow Your Mind”. Also set to top the bill at the epic lesbian party is hip-hop’s biggest revelation Iggy Azalea who will take center stage at the iconic “White Party”, Friday, April 4 at the Palm Springs Convention Center.

The Dinah 2014 will also be rocked with special performances from 2014 Grammy nominee Mary Lambert, the voice behind Macklemore & Ryan Lewis’ VMA award-winning pro-equality “Same Love”; Grammy Award-Winning R&B diva, Evelyn “Champagne” King known for her multi-million selling classic old-school smashes “Shame” and ”Love Come Down”; Thea Austin, the legendary voice of “Rhythm is a Dancer” by Snap!; and power, pop/punk band and stars of “The Real L Word” Season 3, Hunter Valentine, to name a few.

On the comedy front, “The Dinah Comedy Night” hosted by Suzanne Westenhoefer will be headlined by Fortune Feimster of E! “Chelsea Lately”. The loveable Southern comic will be joined by Last Comic Standing alumni, British comic Gina Yashere and stand up’s fastest rising star, Erin Foley.

Returning this year is the “Celebrity Poker Tournament” with all proceeds going to the Human Rights Campaign (HRC). Celebrities joining the poker tables include Jill Bennett (“Second Shot”), Chef K (ABC “The Taste”), Guinevere Turner (“American Psycho”), Ari Fitz (“MTV The Real World Ex-Plosion”), Gloria Bigelow (“Wanda Sykes Presents Herlarious”), Tracy Ryerson (“The Real L Word”), and Brittany Wiener (Bravo “Millionaire Matchmaker”) among many others.

Also coming back is The Dinah Film Festival presented by OML, held on Friday, April 4, at 8:00 p.m at the Hilton Hotel. Produced by award-winning filmmaker JD DiSalvatore (the producer of Shelter, Marine Story and Elena undone, to name a few), the Dinah film Festival will showcase a variety of quality lesbian films including “Little Horribles” “Nikki & Nora”, “Kiss Her I’m Famous”, “Dyke Central”, and the short film “Secrets & Toys”, among others.

New this year is the “Battle of the DJs” hosted by Dinah’s resident DJs Lezlee, Asha, Lisa Pittman, Saratonin and Amara. The competition held over two-days will feature some of the best DJs on the West Coast!

If that weren’t hot enough, did we mention the exclusive L Word Pool Party?
Hosted in association with Showtime, The L Word Pool party will be held on Saturday April 5 at the Hilton Hotel.
L Word iconic stars, Leisha Hailey and Kate Moennig will, respectively, step back one more time into their famed Alice Pieszecki and Shane McCutcheon shoes for an exclusive meet and greet hosted from 2:30pm to 5:00pm in the grand Ballroom. As this year marks the 10th Anniversary of the official television debut of The L Word, Club Skirts and SHOWTIME are proudly commemorating the nostalgia of a memorable era in lesbian culture that celebrated out loud our “girls in tight dresses who drag with mustaches”!
The epic five-day world-renown weekend is already making a lot of noise and is well on its way to be the biggest Dinah EVER.

… this is going to be an unforgettable year!

For all the latest updates, the full Dinah 2014 schedule of events, entertainment line-up, as well as hotel information, tickets and VIP package options please go to: http://www.TheDinah.com

Follow us on Twitter: @dinahshore
Connect with us on Facebook: Club Skirts Dinah Shore Weekend


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