Why I Love Butches

Recently, I asked all of you to share the reasons why you love butches. It was a really interesting list and some of you suggested that I needed to compile it and share. One note is that this was grammatically challenging. Most of these are tweets and so not full sentences, but I tried to edit as little as possible. I did make them readable outside of Twitter and Facebook, though, and even though they aren’t all complete sentences, I added periods. Also, I’ve never cursed in a post, but a few of these need the expletive, I think, so I have left them.  Well, here you go!

Oh, and if you are a baby butch, take note. It was mentioned on more than one occasion that some of you could use a few of these tips.

OUR HANDS & ARMS

• Big, giant, strong hands to pick me up and fuck me. Number one reason.
• Looking at her strong hands and knowing where they can take me…
• Strong hands on the small of my back guiding me through a crowded room.
• She runs her fingers through my hair, gently pulling my head back, and kisses my neck.
• The contrast of her big rough hands on my smooth skin.
• The way she holds me and the way she takes my hand in hers.
• Butch hands, butch style, butch lips!
• Arms strong enough to carry me to her bed, hands strong enough to pin my wrists even when I arch my back.
• Strong hands that silently promise to always keep me safe.
• The safety that can always be found in their big strong arms.

Butches: Femmes are loving how strong we are. Also, they notice our hands, so maybe keep them clean?

OUR FASHION

• How amazing she looks in a 3 piece suit with a bow tie and how that bow tie comes in handy after dark.
• How she looks in a made-to-measure three piece suit.
• She’s not into suits, but she knows that you have a thing for them and so she wears them for you.
• Suits and boobs!
• A surprise trashy bra under her suit.
• Purple dress shirts and vests.
• Three words. Ties. Cufflinks. Vests.
• Bow ties that I can untie…
• French cuff dress shirts & cuff links.
• Ties, button down shirts, blazers, belts, shoes, watches.
• Ass kicking boots!
• Short, well maintained hair.
• Nothing quite as appealing as a dapper butch.

Butches: Get the picture here? There is major action to be gotten by dressing up, buttoning down, and tying that bow tie.

GENERAL

• I like how how attentive she is when I make her breakfast.
• When she let’s you ramble on and on about your day…and actually listens.
• They use the word asshats to make sad femmes laugh out loud.
• How intently she listens to me when I speak.
• Her patience while I get ready.
• When a straight man says, “why not date a real man?” I can say, anything you can do, she can do better!
• They’re so smile-inducing to consider that I’d rather stay here typing why I love them, than finish getting ready &going to work this morning!
• The softer side only shown in the safety and confidence of a loved one.
• The dynamic that can only be shared between a butch and a femme.
• Attentive, appreciative and creative..
• The way she embraces the butch-femme dance in a way that respects us both.
• The way butches interact with children when they think no one is watching: let go, act silly and carefree! *swoon*
• Strong facial features with a hint of softness.

Butches: Listen, be patient, and let those lovely femmes see your softer side. Apparently, they like it. What a relief! It’s hard to be tough all the time.

PUPPIES (Yes, really.)

• They get puppies for their little girls..
• They give a puppy-less femme a late nite puppy fix.
• She selflessly offers to share adorable puppy to serve as mascot.

Butches: If you can pull it off responsibly, there are points to be scored here.

SWAGGER

• Confidence, because she’s out every moment & has to deal with things I never will.
• Her unapologetic presence and self confidence.
• Outward self confidence and undeniable presence.

I have to say that first one almost makes me cry. It’s true, and it’s exhausting. So nice to be appreciated for it.

CHIVALRY

• Having a butch find out no one has ever bought you flowers before & them being more pissed off than you.
• She is gallant enough to allow an inattentive femme to save face.
• Old-school butch style, old-school butch manners.
• The way she makes me feel like the only woman in the world worth noticing.
• The silent possessiveness of her presence when we’re on a date.
• Gentlebutch manners. Attentive. Femmes first.
• How she opens the door for me, closes my car door, all those little things.
• How she guides me with a hand on the small of my back as we walk.
• I love butch gentlemanly attention, tenderness, tough demeanor, lovely manners to start…
• The effort she makes to ensure I don’t get wet from puddles and the way she walks.
• Chivalry in the most genuine and loving display.
• The way she bravely kills the spiders while pretending they don’t terrify her.

I am so glad the femmes notice! Young butches: Open the doors for your femme – unless she tells you not to.

SEXY

• Making her growl.
• How your special butch knows just how to please you.
• Knowing that submission is strength, not weakness.
• How they blush when teased playfully by a femme.
• Walking out in heels, corset, suspenders, stockings with red lips and her being left speechless.
• Because they know how to put the biggest grin on your face, right before bed. *swoon*
• The way she undresses me with her eyes.
• Unexpected romantic streaks.
• Her absolute need for me there and then…
• How I can make her distracted by being girly & flirty.
• Role playing :o)
• When she pretends like we have never met and find that connection all over again every time.
• How they always give a femme what she wants and needs.
• They are super attentive and giving.
• How I can get her cool facade to slip by being provocative. 
• The way she makes me melt with a demanding kiss. 
• The way she treats me with respect & charm, until we’re in the bedroom.
• The look on their face when they realizing I’m packing under my skirt.
• The way she bends down to gently remove my stilettos before giving me a massage. 
• The way they please their lover!

Butches: Well done! We are sexy beasts! Keep up the good work, and the growling.

POWER

• Big and strong to pin me down while she fucks me. 
• When she ties me up with her bow tie.
• The look on her face when she says “I may hurt you, but I’ll never harm you.” 
• Obedience… *fanning myself* and the look in her eyes when she does submit.

Gulp. No comment.

SMELL

• Butches are so intoxicating.
• The way she reacts to my perfume.
• The way their skin smells, even without cologne or body spray.

Butches: This doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t shower. Keep it fresh.

And, my favorite comment was from JaJaButton: “Someone bring me ButchOnTap. Please? Yum. Butch is best.” Thanks JaJa! You made me blush.

Coming soon, the same inventory for Why I love Femmes. Given this list, it is obvious the femmes and sometimes butches love us for all that makes us butch. So, I guess that means that it’s Butch to Be Butch. Be Butch.

The Femme Faux Pas

Let’s talk about something light and fluffy on this Tuesday. The femme faux pas. What I am referring to here are things that our femmes do that are similar to our own butch fails (Butch Fails). But, since they are femmes, we would never call them that. They are femmes, after all, the kinder and gentler of our species. Dare I say that they never fail at anything? Femme faux pas seems better, though it’s hard to know what the plural is. So let’s just use “FFP.”

1. Shy Cleavage: Not all femmes have cleavage in spades, but if you do and you don’t ever show it, that is a FFP. We need to see it sometimes. Actually, we probably want to see it all the time, but we don’t necessarily want you to show other people – so some discretion is required. It’s a tough balance. We get that.
   

   Wear this…

2. Overlooking Quick Bow Tie Tying: Some of us butches take special pride in our bow ties, and for those of us who tie them ourselves (ahem), if we tie that perfect tie in a matter of seconds, you must notice. Not every time, of course, but often enough that we know you appreciate just how very butch we are.
3. No Smokey Eye Makeup: We need you to wear that makeup proudly and generally try to keep up with the latest trends. The smokey eye is particularly sexy, I would go so far as to say, on every femme. Please learn how to do it, and please do it sometimes. It is super hot. No need to wear this or any make up every day, of course, but sometimes break out the special dark and stormy sexy look. But Butch, I don’t know how to do smokey eyes! You can find lots of instructional videos on YouTube; here’s one for beginners, for example: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n_aqWD_9gH8. Or, go to Sephora. They will show you how. Butches, you are welcome.
   

   …Not this

4. Granny Panties: Really? Nothing more needed here. FFP
5. No Purse: We are happy to carry your stuff most of the time, in our ample pockets, but on special occasions, please carry a purse. Then, you can carry our stuff! There is a special exception here for Sporty Spice Femmes. We know that you will never or rarely carry a purse, and we will adjust. Can we at least borrow your chap stick sometimes?
6. No Pre-Lipstick Kiss: Right, butches? She is getting ready in the morning, or before going out, and once the lipstick is applied, there is no chance in hell of getting a good kiss. “Butch, you’ll ruin my lipstick!”  So, the procedure should be, your femme gets ready, and then the last thing she does is apply that lovely lip lacquer. Just before doing so, she calls out to you (you are on the bed fully dressed, waiting for her, and killing time on Facebook or Twitter) to come and get a “pre-lipstick kiss.” You come bounding over like a giant Sheep Dog. If this does not happen and the lipstick is already on, it will be a while before you get a good kiss. Please don’t forget, femmes.
   

   No way you are getting anywhere near these lips until the end of the evening.

7. Wrong Bra: This could really be anything related to the bra – ill fitting, old, sports bra, etc. We butches care a great deal about this particular part of your bodies, and so we also care a lot about the piece of magical clothing that protects this part of you. Please make sure that it fits you well, is flattering, is not old and gray, and is perhaps a sexy, lacy/satiny/cute cottony type number. You know, not something we would wear.
8. Never Wearing Heels: Now, I am not a Neanderthal. No, I am an evolved butch, so I am not stupid, and I know that heels are torture devices. They hurt and are not easy to walk in. I get that heels are to be saved for special occasions for many femmes. No problem. But when those special occasions come around, will you please think about wearing them? If not, please wear them at home for us – even just for a short while…
   

   How about these?

9. Too Many Pants: Pants are lovely. Pants are great for evolved women. Pants are practical. Pants can be flattering. Pants are perfect for every day wear. But, we butches would love to see you in a dress or skirt every now and then. Would that be alright?

So, even in pointing out – in a light and fluffy way – some of the shortcomings of a femme, I am left singing their praises. Ahh, the femme.  How about you, dear readers, can you think of any FFPs?

It is very butch to love your femme. Be butch.